• Pick the right locale. You can minimize your frustration by asking friends to meet you in a place where your child can play while the adults chat. A park with a sandbox is ideal — though your backyard might work fine.

• Tag team. If you and your partner are getting together with another couple with a child, the perfect solution is for two of the adults to watch the kids while the other two socialize for half an hour or so and then switch roles. Also, while it might sound like an extravagance, getting a babysitter to watch your toddler while you take a coffee break with a friend can do wonders for your sanity.

• Read and teach. A fun way to introduce the concept of polite behavior is to read your child such books as The Berenstain Bears Forget Their Manners, by Stan and Jan Berenstain, Babette Cole's The Bad Good Manners Book, Aliki's Manners, and the classic (and still charming) What Do You Say, Dear? by Sesyle Joslin, with delightful illustrations by Maurice Sendak. (Find books like these in the BabyCenter Store.)

• Schedule phone calls. Rather than battling it out every time the phone rings, the easiest solution is simply to make and return calls while your child is napping or after she's in bed for the night. Another tried-and-true solution: letting her watch TV or a favorite video, giving you a few uninterrupted moments. If you prefer not to use the TV, try redirecting your child's attention. You might want to keep a box or drawer of special toys or art supplies that get used only during phone calls. Or fill a sink with water and plastic cups for her to play with (as long as you can watch her), offer her a toy phone so she can talk with an imaginary pal, or invite her to participate by saying "hello." (Use this last suggestion judiciously if she's the gregarious type!) If your child tends to wander — or her attention does — putting a playpen stocked with interesting toys near the phone may be your best option.

Getting a cordless phone can also help, as it'll let you move to a quieter room yet continue to watch her through an open doorway. On a sunny day you might try taking both the phone and your child into the backyard, where she'll find enough to do to grant you a few moments of peace. If your child isn't generally squirmy or if she's in a placid mood, holding and cuddling her while you talk might work; it will reassure her that she's important to you even when your attention is focused elsewhere.

• Model the behavior. Toddlers copy enthusiastically, so take advantage of this by setting a fine example for your child. If you and your partner tend to cut each other off, work on ending that habit. Also, try not to interrupt your child when she's talking to you. Any time you forget and break in on her (or anyone else), stop yourself and say, "Sorry. I interrupted you. Go on." With a little luck, your child will not only absorb your good manners but your ease in graciously admitting to a mistake. You'll also make your job easier down the road if she frequently hears you use "pardon me," "please," "thank you," "you're welcome," and "excuse me." While she can't yet put the principle behind these civilities into words, she'll sense it — because she'll find that it's pleasant to be around people who use them.